Dude, I think that calling an ass, pussy, reflects confusion, whether it bothers you or not, and by looking at your picture, I think and you're the one needing help. The sonner the better. Nobody's harrasing you
I mean, I'm not married to a woman (I only fuck men and date men, I'm a Kinsey 6 Gold Star™️ Gay), but I don't mind calling my bottom's ass a pussy (or having my top call my ass a pussy). I don't get so triggered that I start harrassing other men and accusing them of hiding in the closet or being "heterosexuals with fat wives" without any basis. Not like you do. Get some help.